There is a reason why a past love is called an EX or X.

When you fill out an application form or an exam, usually you put a check mark or a shade to your choice of answer and an X mark for a not applicable or a “no” answer.  The way I see it, past relationships are like the X marks.  They’re not the answer to your present important questions about your life.  They are there as a statement of no relevance, or maybe just for information-a statement of a fact that hopefully you learned a valuable lesson from, or, just simply a cause of confusion that divert you from the correct answer.

Since a relationship with an Ex whether good or bad is something that really happened sometime in your past, an Ex or a past relationship is part of who you are now as a person.  An Ex can be the reason for your single life and your bitter perspective of life.  Sometimes discouragement and disappointments from a hurtful and unhealthy past relationship can scar you for life.  It can make you hard and untrusting.  Worse is you might even find yourself stuck forever in a state of constant bitterness and rage.

 After all, past relationships and boyfriends are the best school for learning how to become a better lover and person.  Books, movies, blogs etc., etc., are readily available to give you pointers about love and relationships, but, nothing beats hands-on experience.  Some people do become better individuals after relationships that don’t succeed.  Like for example my boyfriend.  Having probably experienced a bad relationship where he might have been frustrated about the attention and respect given to a partner, he pays much attention to the things I like and don’t like in various aspects of our relationship, and quickly shows or at least tries to immediately make efforts to change or correct anything that we agreed to be wrong or needs to be improved by either of us.  It’s this trait that makes me love him more everyday.  I see that he constantly tries to be better as a person and as a lover and makes obvious efforts to make our relationship better all the time.  So I’m a firm believer that definitely something good can come out of a bad relationship.


There is a real logical reason why an EX is called an X.  For some reason your relationship with an Ex didn’t work out.  So what are the chances that it will work out the second, third or fourth time?  Shouldn’t you be moving on to make a new life for yourself while there is still time for you to enjoy a life filled with good memories with just one person you deserve and deserves you?

So what is it going to be then?  A check mark or an X mark?  Life is short, you never know what will happen in the next second. So move on with your life and live.  You owe it to yourself!